Your thoughts on this [message #437310] |
Fri, 01 October 2010 16:35 |
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sadukar09
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Okay, it's a slightly long read but here is what happens, tell me if it sounds sketchy or just normal. Names were all changed.
There is this girl I met for a week, let's call her Julie, she 18, we get a long quite well, she told me her life on literally the first day we met, she is the antisocial kind that stays at home to play WOW because her friends in her neighbourhood sucks (outside of the city limit in a small farm city), like she got raped by her boyfriend, and she's almost always very depressed. When I spend time with her, she doesn't really object to what we are doing, last wednesday we met a Finnish guy named Paul in her japanese class, he apparently shares the same stuff we do, video games, except he's in third year and he's 20/21. Today, we were supposed to meet up with him and one of her girl friend (Sarah) to chill out and drink, except it turned out to have like 7 people. We went to pick up Julie's stuff in Mary's dorm, we went up and discussed about what to do. Paul said he's leaving to run, he was wearing baggy jeans and it was the type that slides down your waist. Julie got a call and left, we assumed it was her dad and she will be coming back. After a while she didn't come back, Martin (guy that came along) went to look for her. I went outside and called her, she said she was with Paul at Subway because she's hungry and will be coming back to the dorm in a bit. I told her friend Sarah that she's coming back, so Sarah and Martin went to buy booze at LCBO (provincial liquor store). I called Julie again to tell her that, except her voice mail now instantly pop up, meaning her phone's off. I kept trying for a while but couldn't reach her.
Now another one of my classmate Marge showed up, I helped her move furniture and she let me back in the dorm with Mary. I inquired Mary if Paul and Julie came back, she said no and probably won't be for a while (perhaps she knows soemthing I don't). Paul never answered his cellphone when I tried calling him. After I chatted with Marge for a bit, I called Julie again, this time she picked up, but as soon as she said hello, the line cut off. Moments later Paul texted me to back off and Julie doesn't want to talk to me for the moment.
I know it just seem like a normal case of rejection or something, except Julie is the type that just flat out tells you what she thinks instead of dodging or doing it the girl way (telling some bullshit to make you go away), I would expect she text me instead of some guy she met two days before to speak for her. Now she was supposed to go to Paul's friend's place with all of us, she even brought her video games with her. Except here, she didn't even go back to get it, neither did Paul to get his bags. (If they were his at all)
It just seem really odd why an antisocial/blunt girl would go to a guy she just met two days ago without her telling her friends, and also why would the guy speak for her, and why did her phone suddenly drop? She's really naive and I'm afraid she's getting into some terrible situation here.
Am I overreacting?
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Re: Your thoughts on this [message #437311 is a reply to message #437310] |
Fri, 01 October 2010 16:50 |
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Starbuzzz
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so what's the timeframe on this whole situation? Did all this happen yesterday or today? When did Paul send you that text message and how long has it been now? Have you spoken with Julie or did she come back to get her stuff or what?
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Re: Your thoughts on this [message #437312 is a reply to message #437311] |
Fri, 01 October 2010 16:54 |
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sadukar09
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Starbuzzz wrote on Fri, 01 October 2010 18:50 | so what's the timeframe on this whole situation? Did all this happen yesterday or today? When did Paul send you that text message and how long has it been now? Have you spoken with Julie or did she come back to get her stuff or what?
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Started at 5, I went home around 6:45, Paul sent me that text 6:30. It's been two and half hours now, I have no clue because I'm not at the dorm anymore.
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Re: Your thoughts on this [message #437314 is a reply to message #437312] |
Fri, 01 October 2010 17:20 |
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Starbuzzz
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I don't know what Paul's motives are.
thing that's quiet alarming is you calling Julie and she saying hello only to have her line cut off with a follow-up text from Paul. In you position I would feel uneasy too.
And regardless the text from Paul, try to contact Julie too. You say Julie's been a rape victim before? She sounds the type that is easily taken advantage of.
Since this is going on atm live, I would keep an eye out and try to make contact with Julie again and make sure you call any friends at the dorm as well to ensure Julie has returned.
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Re: Your thoughts on this [message #437318 is a reply to message #437310] |
Fri, 01 October 2010 19:47 |
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R315r4z0r
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First, to clear something up: Don't call her anti-social. A lot of people misuse that word by thinking it means lack of social participation. Anti-social means enemy of society; someone who wants to destroy society as we know it.
I think the correct term to use would be "introverted." I say this because if you told her that she was anti-social and she knew what the actual definition was, she would think you think she is evil or something.
ANYWAY, when the phone cut off after she said hello, did she sound annoyed, anxious, or withdrawn? Or did she just pick up the phone, sounded the same as ever, and then suddenly get cut off?
From the way you described it in your story, it most likely sounds like Paul is intervening between your communication with her. For whatever reason he doesn't want you with her. His text message only further demonstrates this idea.
I don't think you gave enough information about your relation ship with the rest of these people, so I can't really say if their is some scheme going on in the background or not.
Anyway, take into consideration that Julie isn't a social butterfly. Don't just approach her and start asking her questions because you're going to stress her out. Next time you see her, don't bring up the phone call or Paul's text. Try to think of a way to ask her if she has anything going on with Paul without sounding to invasive.
Remember, she isn't a pet or something, so don't phrase your questions in a way in which she is obligated to explain to you. She doesn't have to tell you what she does in her personal life. That's why you have to ask as subtly as possible in order to get a straight answer.
Once you do get an answer, you should know what to do next. It really depends on what she says and what actually happened.
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Re: Your thoughts on this [message #437321 is a reply to message #437310] |
Fri, 01 October 2010 20:28 |
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Random, but I met a guy named Paul and a girl named Sarah this summer when I was working, they were on their honeymoon. Except they were from Germany, not Canada.
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Re: Your thoughts on this [message #437338 is a reply to message #437310] |
Sat, 02 October 2010 07:05 |
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Sounds like there's a party going on and you're hung up about some emo girl and posting on renegadeforums..?
Don't get me wrong, some emo girls are fucking sexy, but she isn't there right now and there are other girls that are, don't waste your youth worrying, you wont be able to have these types of experiances your whole life, so enjoy it while you can for as long as you can.
The girls that are there and there because they want to have fun, so have some booze and try your luck with them.
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Re: Your thoughts on this [message #437460 is a reply to message #437310] |
Mon, 04 October 2010 12:23 |
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halo2pac
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Check up on the the suckers. Go see what Paul's doing or did. Collaborate their stories. Then go ask the anti-social chick's family if they heard from her since. then find another way to get ahold of her and him. you cant accomplish it all in one night wait till the net day or two.
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Re: Your thoughts on this [message #437652 is a reply to message #437399] |
Sun, 10 October 2010 15:55 |
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trooprm02
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Ryu wrote on Sun, 03 October 2010 10:58 |
trooprm02 wrote on Sun, 03 October 2010 04:34 | Some chick that brings video games with her to a party? LOL.
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Theres a difference between a sit off and a party, get out more you silly child.
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lmfao, ok alexthecool
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