| Re: Your thoughts on this [message #437318 is a reply to message #437310] |
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R315r4z0r
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First, to clear something up: Don't call her anti-social. A lot of people misuse that word by thinking it means lack of social participation. Anti-social means enemy of society; someone who wants to destroy society as we know it.
I think the correct term to use would be "introverted." I say this because if you told her that she was anti-social and she knew what the actual definition was, she would think you think she is evil or something. 
ANYWAY, when the phone cut off after she said hello, did she sound annoyed, anxious, or withdrawn? Or did she just pick up the phone, sounded the same as ever, and then suddenly get cut off?
From the way you described it in your story, it most likely sounds like Paul is intervening between your communication with her. For whatever reason he doesn't want you with her. His text message only further demonstrates this idea.
I don't think you gave enough information about your relation ship with the rest of these people, so I can't really say if their is some scheme going on in the background or not.
Anyway, take into consideration that Julie isn't a social butterfly. Don't just approach her and start asking her questions because you're going to stress her out. Next time you see her, don't bring up the phone call or Paul's text. Try to think of a way to ask her if she has anything going on with Paul without sounding to invasive.
Remember, she isn't a pet or something, so don't phrase your questions in a way in which she is obligated to explain to you. She doesn't have to tell you what she does in her personal life. That's why you have to ask as subtly as possible in order to get a straight answer.
Once you do get an answer, you should know what to do next. It really depends on what she says and what actually happened.
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